As a society, we have evolved to strive for more and more achievement and push ourselves to attain bigger and better measures of success. Rather than give us a lasting sense of pleasure, however, we are often left with a relentless critical inner voice and a belief that if only (I was more successful, richer, thinner) then we would be happy.
Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) (Paul Gilbert) focuses on helping clients develop an ability to view themselves and treat themselves with self-compassion.
Being self compassionate means seeing yourself as a flawed human being, like everyone else, trying their best to live a good life and ultimately be happy. It means empathising with the position we are in and the choices we have made so far, given the unique life experiences we have had and not beating ourselves up for making mistakes or being imperfect.
Being self compassionate is not about self indulgence but about coaching and encouraging ourselves to live the live we want to live and achieve our goals.
More to come….